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In
the first place, marriage is unfair to women. Marriage has been called “the
paradox of declining female happiness” (Wade, 2017) by Lisa Wade, Ph.D., a
professor at Occidental College. It is because women “do
more of the unpaid and undervalued work of households… and they are more aware
of this inequality than their husbands” (Wade, 2017). They are constantly
expected to keep the house clean and other tasks like leave work early if need
be for the child, but it is never the husbands job. Why should women be
expected to take these jobs? They are also expected to take on larger duties
than cleaning. Judy Brady writes “I want a wife who will work and send me to
school” (Brady, 1972). In her article, she explains why she also would like to
have a wife for the fact that wives are expected to do these things for you to
make your life easier. These concepts all come from the structure of marriage,
or the more commonly known nuclear family.

            Another key point is the outdated
structure of marriage. The Nuclear family created post-war has only taught us
what is expected of women when they become wives. “Touch up your make up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh
looking. He has just been with a lot of work weary people. Be… a little more
interesting. His boring day may need a lift.” (House, 2016). This comes from an
article on the Dailey Mail UK revisiting a 1950’s Home Economics book and the
ridiculous tasks women were told to fulfill. These guidelines only brainwashed
women into thinking they need to do everything to keep their husbands happy and
make men believe they are entitled to this treatment. Yet these suggested roles
are far from what should be expected of a married couple. The people developing
these guide books should have tried to develop the average married couple as a
team with similar roles if they wanted it to last. “The rules of a nuclear
family just don’t apply any more” (Scoffield, 2012) reads an article from the
Toronto Star exploring the changing status of modern marriages. These outdated
roles are what is leading men and women to choose to not marry in the modern
day.

            In
addition, men and women are choosing to not get married in the modern day. “Married couples are in a long-term decline, single
parenting has risen persistently, and families have gradually shrunk”
(Scoffield, 2012). Many adults make this decision for many reasons, one being
that marriage comes with expectations. Lisa Wades article explains “It often leads to children, which exacerbate cycles of
earning and spending, makes workers more reliable and dependent on employers,
reduces mobility… Marriage inserts us into the machine” (Wade, 2017). It is
much harder to leave a relationship when you are married and many
young adults don’t like the idea of it because they feel they are losing their
freedom. People instead choose to become common law married by living with a
partner for more than three years. Also, many people who divorce create blended
families with other divorcees rather than remarrying. “The
modern family is changing, and I think it’s a wonderful thing” (Scoffield,
2012). It is good that the modern family is changing, it will create happier, healthier
lifestyles for modern couples.

            In the final analysis, I have
concluded that marriage is no longer proving to be the best choice of lifestyle
for modern adults. For it puts unfair expectations on women’s roles. The
structure of marriage is outdated, and because of this people are choosing not
to marry.

Young
adults have become aware of what marriage entails and many are not welcoming to
the idea.

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